The only form of unconditional love is between a parent and their baby. Its all give and no take - except for the occasional smile and gurgle ;-)
All other relationships are conditional.
They are conditional upon care and respect and responsibility from both parties.
In the same way that nature is conditional. If you break the laws, you get the consequence.
And remember, a consequence is not a punishment,￼it flows naturally from your behaviour.
If you are addicted to your phone, then your relationship will deteriorate.
If you don't keep your agreements, ditto. The Trust gets undermined, the other person pulls away, and the relationship lives in suspended animation... or dies.
We live in a world of Duality. Whatever you do, there is a consequence.
And it is the duty of good parents to provide these consequences - else we have a culture of un-grounded, self-focussed children, teenagers and adults who don't know how to get on with each other.￼
Just how the 'Powers that Be' like it.
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