 How an Australian Government department – HealthCareComplaintsCommission - and the legal system conspired to destroy my name and business. I am a 33 years experienced Relationships and General Counsellor with not a single formal complaint about my services until the story below. Instead, see here for the Testimonials I have received over my years of service. If you do a search for my name on the internet, you are likely to come up with a legal document from the Australian government-funded Health Care Complaints Commission - HCCC. In their 6 page document of endless imagined claims, they falsely allege that in early January 2020, I caused harm to an ex-client of mine. Apparently I told her to slit her wrists, and was forcing her to come to see me etc!! I contacted them numerous times - both email and phone - asking for proof of the allegations. But rather than follow due process, they ignored all my requests, and treated me as if I was guilty... and barrelled on with their apparent goal to destroy my name and my 32 year Counselling business. When I found out who the ex-client was, I was incredibly surprised, as this particular female client came to see me on and off for 2-3 years - and she was THE most complimentary client in my whole life as a Counsellor! She told me pretty much every session how much I was helping her ... and it was so full on, that I had to regularly ask her to focus on the great work she was doing to help herself. And we also never had the slightest upset or misunderstandings that I was aware of. Hence, my incredible surprise when I found out it was she who made the complaint. Also most of the complaints seemed to have nothing to do with her and what mattered to her - she appeared to have been 'coached'. Obviously, I tried to contact her, (once) but she wouldn't respond. Despite my many letters and phone calls, all my requests for the HCCC to provide evidence were duly ignored. Early on, I was given interim orders that banned me from working... (surely this is illegal to do before someone has been found guilty?) ...and then eventually, they requested I turn up to court. As it was during the Covid era... I lived 7 hours away from Sydney,...and I had no funds for a lawyer... and I had completely lost any faith that I would be treated fairly... I did not turn up to the 4 times they called me to court. To be honest, it was hard for me to treat the whole thing seriously, because there was no way I would ever harm a client. And they had no evidence, because how could they, if their allegations had no basis in truth?? Interestingly, I am in good company. Similar has happened to many medical practitioners in Australia. Including the incredible Naturopath, Barbara O'Neill. She turned up to court with a good lawyer, but ended up with a similar outcome - banned from working for life and a huge fine. So despite having NO EVIDENCE, they found me guilty of not turning up to court, and somehow magically produced a rabbit out of their magicians hat with the resultant outcome. OUTCOME 1. Banned from working for life in my area of expertise - including voluntary. 2. Fined $40,000 3. Fine was unpaid – resulting in loss of driver’s licence - suspended for life. 4. Car was de-registered 5. Defamed throughout all the major mainstream media and newspaper outlets. Obviously this has had a huge impact upon my life – as not only is my business destroyed at a very delicate time of life ie entering towards retirement with no savings (my life’s savings were stolen around the same time), but also the desecration of my good name after a lifetime of service. So for those of you who are not naïve enough to believe everything that government departments or legal systems say is true, let’s explore things a bit more deeply. HCCC LIES
3. The case against me was proven. NOT TRUE See gif below. It says, “…the Magistrate found the charges proven.” Actually no, they didn’t. The 4 x $10k fines were due to not turning up to court. At no time have any of the charges been proven, because you can’t prove something that is a lie. This is called perjury. 4. I was fined for “failing to respond”. What happened to “the Magistrate found the charges proven.”?? Which one was it folks? Or are you just making it up as you go? NOT TRUE. Prior to the court cases, I contacted the HCCC with numerous letters and phone calls, but in every interaction, they treated me as if I was guilty and not worth speaking to. They never answered any of my questions. All of which means, they broke the law by not following any due process. They consistently pretended that I didn’t respond to their letters. I did. I just didn’t respond in the way they wanted. 5. They alleged that I was masquerading as a Psychologist. NOT TRUE Amongst my many other qualifications, I have a 1991 BA majoring in Psychology ie BAPsych, which yes, does not make me a Psychologist. But mentioning that I have that degree in my marketing etc, does not mean I am pretending to be a Psychologist. It just means I have a degree that I earned. They can allege all they like, but it doesn’t make it true. --------------------- So imagine a murderer or rapist or a white collar criminal who was put in jail for some offences that they actually did do. They do their time, and get out of jail and start working again. That’s right, there’s an end to the sentence. With my ruling, there is no end. Obviously, this is a total travesty of justice – a kangaroo court - both unlawful and unethical. And if we actually lived in a Democracy, this could never happen. Which does make one think - do we live in the opposite?? So there we go. That’s my story. Similar to many, many other Health Professionals that we never hear about. A potent indicator that our judicial systems are rotten to the core and have lost all pretence at upholding decency and lawfulness. So please, if you see someone denigrating me in the public realm, (which does happen)… please send them the link to this story. So at least they can know the truth and not besmirch their soul by causing harm to another. https://www.francesamaroux.com/blog/blind-justice-my-story If you prefer to listen, rather than read... https://audio.com/frances-a/audio/blind-justice-my-story   The most important lesson a male needs to learn to retain membership of the Man Box is: Don’t be a Girl. Whatever you do, under all circumstances, no matter what… Don’t be a girl Don’t look like a girl – don’t smell like a girl – don’t wear girl clothes – don’t do girl things like dance or like ballet – don’t do a girl job – don’t feel – don’t empathise - don’t cry – don’t negotiate (especially with a girl) – don’t go to the doctor till the last minute – don’t lose - don’t fail. If you do, you will be shamed, and abused… and even violenced till you learn to get back in that box. And if you rebel or just don’t get it, And wear pink or purple or polka dots to the building site one day… the rejection from the Man Club is often too great to bear. Its better to be dead. And who does this shaming and abusing? Other men. Women do their fair share. But mostly, its men. All those girly qualities rejected again and again. And then you spend your whole life trying to get back into that womb, to get even a taste of that feminine. You want it so bad, like an addict, you think about it day and night, you will take it, you will spend lots of money to get it, you will destroy your marriage for it, lose your kids, you will rape it, you will kill for it. But that normal softer part of you, that society mistakenly calls ‘feminine’, Is an integral part of you. But you have to cut it off, truncate it, squash and distort it Till all that is left, is a cartoonish empty caricature of ‘what it means to be a ‘real man’. You are caught in the most horrifying paradox of all Don’t be a girl – but you got to have the girl. This endless impossible quest rips you apart internally. And as you rip those muscles at the gym, mistakenly thinking that the girl (who you unconsciously despise) will want you more when you look that way, You are filled with an unspeakable rage at the unfairness, the confusion, the overwhelming difficulty of the task. To keep the girl, to get the sex, to fill the emptiness, You have to understand what makes her tick, What she wants, what turns her on… This being that you have been taught again and again and again To despise To despise most every quality that she embodies And yet you can’t get enough… The emptiness calls And if she opens her mouth to express anything that doesn’t fit into your picture of how she should be, if she’s not totally grateful for all the effort you put in To toil endless hours at that job Build that house, Mow that lawn And if she won’t ‘give’ you sex, the sex that you deserve, that you are owed For having to spend a lifetime crushing that girl part. Then you have every right to get it elsewhere, in whatever way you can And at whatever cost. Because deep down, you suspect you may be nothing without that girl part That if you cant fill yourself from that girl cup, You are starved and empty and worthless And life is meaningless So, you feel that righteous anger rise within you. The anger that comes from deep, deep powerlessness The powerlessness that comes from you don’t know that you don’t know that you don’t know And so, you take it out on them. After all, they are weaker. It’s not so hard when they don’t fight back. Crush that bitch, crush her as hard as you have crushed yourself. As hard as your father or teacher or boss or friend Crushed the aliveness, the creativity, the joy, the soft squishiness of you The you that lives in the straightjacket, the suffocating confines of that ManBox The ManBox that you might not have known even existed. Until now... Copywrite Frances Amaroux 2019 And here is Justin Baldoni - actor - beautifully expressing the same idea.
WHY I'M DONE TRYING TO BE "MAN ENOUGH"  Win-Win Relating
No matter how fantastic your relationship is, its likely to move into the ‘Power Struggle’ stage some time after 2 months to 2 years together. In this very normal stage, where one or both parties attempt to re-establish their individuality separate from the relationship. You begin to look for what is different, or wrong or bad with your partner. And this is where arguments and disconnection can start. At this stage, people either run for the hills, stay stuck on and off for the duration of the relationship, or learn to create wonderful win-wins and stay happily together. This is where having a few relationship and communication skills can be very handy.
We live in a culture that values winning, but unfortunately if you win in your relationship, your relationship loses, and often gets so toxic that it dies. Instead, always think of your relationship as a team sport – you are both on the same side, working together using your unique gifts and talents - heading towards the same goal of long term love, connection, safety and happiness together.   Excerpt from 'The Ultimate Solution' - yet to be written/published.
Follow up to ‘The Solution to Almost Everything’. Years ago I did a profound workshop with Arnie Mindell in Byron Bay Australia. Ostensibly it was about working with Conflict and Peacemaking, but we did these amazing exercises where we were taken into a trance state to access our subconscious mind. And here we learned to step into ‘things’, and experience them on a deeper level. For example, I stepped into a stain on the carpet and had an incredible experience. Yep truly the stain on the carpet had its own story! But the two experiences I remember the most, were both profound and confusing… as profound things often are ;-) In the first one, I stepped into a cloud and became God – a dude with a beard sitting on the cloud - looking down on the people of Earth fighting a huge battle amongst themselves. And guess what I (God) was doing as I watched? Laughing. Yep uproariously… joyfully… big belly laughs on and on. Hmm?? I could really feel all those feeling of excitement and joy as I saw my human creations doing their thing. And everytime someone died in the battle, I laughed even more. (gulp) Next vision: I was an Elf surfing on a leaf down a huge scary pounding waterfall. Ostensibly I was out of control and probably going to my death. But this little Elf would have none of that fear, and was just surfing those waves with a whoop and holler. I didn’t see how he ended up. LOL. When I came out of my trance, I couldn’t help wondering if this Laughing God was some sort of psychopath. Certainly the God of the Old Testament appears to be so, with his jealousy, wrath, wanting to be obeyed and bowed down to... child sacrifice, and causing endless wars. But my gut told me that this Laughing God was different. He was laughing because everything was awesome and amazing and incredible… look at those humans experiencing life and death to the full…what a miracle of existence… and all designed to be an amazing experience. And it was perfect. And that gave him great joy. And then the Elf … just another God-Self surfing the waves of 3D experience. Feeling every splash and bounce. Knowing himself to be eternal. Delighting in all of it. So, these two experiences gave me some sort of insight at the time, but, for years, I wasn’t really able to integrate them into any workable framework of understanding. NLP and Quantum Healing Just previous to that Arnie Mindell workshop, I had done quite a bit of training with an amazing Australian NLP innovator called Dick Harbers. He created a whole body of work based on the NLP framework – but which was completely unique to him. One of the important aspects of his work was the basic concept, that all emotions and experiences are YOU communicating to YOU. Without those sensations and emotional responses to those experiences, you would be just a robot… or in a coma… or dead. Hence all sensations and feelings should be thanked and appreciated for the wonderful essential messengers that they are. Including and especially, the so-called ‘negative’ ones – like pain and anger and depression and powerlessness etc. I have used this in my healing practice for decades now with amazing results, where people get very present with a pain or emotion and then thank it and thank it… stay present and thank it some more… until it just dissipates and releases from the body-mind. --------------------- So for years I dabbled on the edges with this idea of thanking ALL sensations and emotions. Once when I ruptured a disc in my back, (I was kind of used to it as I’d had a bad back since I was a child), I immediately lay down on the floor and started thanking the pain. After a short while, I went into an amazing bliss state with tears streaming down my face. I can’t say that healed the disc, but it certainly lessened its severity. The Gratitude Movement The personal development field has been strongly recommending this idea of Gratitude for a long time now. Despite it being a lovely idea, I always felt some sort of discomfort with the Gratitude movement. Sure I could be grateful for all the various things and people in my life. Always a useful practice. But something just didn’t feel right. It didn’t feel complete. In the same way that The Secret/The Law of Attraction never fully gelled with me. Both great ideas, but something was missing. For most people - unless we are in a particularly deep funk - it’s relatively easy to be grateful for positive stuff. But how about pain and loss and suffering? For most of us, that’s much harder. And then recently, all the pieces seemed to have come together. And here was last piece of the puzzle for me. Best told by a story. Daddy, why does God let little children die? Once upon a time, in a time before time, there was a Field of Potentiality. This Field has been given multi and varied names over the millennia, like God or Allah, or the Quantum Field etc. But we will call it Source. As this Source field was just potential, there were no things that you could touch or feel to give you a sense of its existence. It sat there in the great nothingness… just being… endlessly emanating this incredible field of possibility…for what seemed eternity. Despite that, let us imagine that it emanated potential qualities of ABSOLUTE LOVE – broken up into subsections of Abundance, Creativity, Eternality, Power, Truth and Oneness (and many, many others). To make it easier to remember, let’s call these qualities ACEPTO, and imagine that each of these qualities had an individual colour… green, purple, yellow, red, orange, turquoise etc… but when melded, together, they became the blinding white of Unconditional Love. But these qualities were just potential qualities – they had no actual existence or ‘reality’. And therefore no impact, no effect. So then one day, after a timeless amount of time, Source because tired of this potentiality, and thought to itself, “Well, I am the Creator, so what would happen if I created something?” And immediately something was created into existence. Now in order to exist, to be perceived….and not be just more of the same eternal blindingly white Love, Abundance, Creativity, Eternality, Power, Truth and Oneness, this thing had to have some qualities that were completely opposite, or just watered-down/lesser versions of these qualities. Because, in order to be something new and different, in order for something to be created, it had to have qualities that were different from Itself. Otherwise it would just be more of the same White Eternal Love. And this is how existence came into existence – as a playful act of creativity and curiosity to just see what might happen. For Source to Know Itself. For Source to have a Relationship with Itself, in order to experience, and learn and expand. Which is interesting, because for the most part, humans can only know themselves in relationship to others. Without others to ‘bounce’ against, we don’t even know we exist. So, in order for something NEW to exist, it couldn’t be just more of the same Unconditional white LOVE Source Creation… or coloured ACEPTO qualities. These new creations had to be watered down versions of the original Source. Loneliness and Separation is a watered down form of Love Poverty, starvation and lack of opportunity are a watered down form of Abundance Boredom, stasis and left-brained thinking are a watered down forms of Creativity Death and time are a watered down forms of Eternality Powerlessness and struggle are a watered down form of Powerfulness Falsity and ignorance are watered down forms of Truth Disconnection, separation and misunderstanding are a watered down forms of Oneness. Because to even feel these ‘negative’ feelings, you have to have some sense of the positive version. i.e. if you have no sense of Love and Connection, how can Separation and Loneliness mean anything?? So, back to the Story… As Source stepped into and experienced this new creation, Source was beside itself with JOY! And how awesome and exciting was that!!! It was filled with amazement and curiosity that anything could exist that wasn’t its PERFECT SELF. Remember the Laughing God on the cloud?? Yes, that why he was laughing… not with evil meanness… but with excited amazement at what he had created. And this is how suffering and evil was created. And this is why God allows little babies to die. Because it’s all just experience – and it’s all good. Suffering and evil are just watered down versions of Source LOVE qualities. Source looked at this creation and LOVED it all. And when I say all, I mean ALL. Every bit of fun and joy and laughter… and every bit of powerlessness and loneliness and sickness and poverty, and even death. The greatest win-win of all is to realise that ALL of existence is good – from a greater to a lesser degree. In the same way that cold is just lesser degrees of heat. The moment I judge something, is the moment I create separation from the great Oneness/ All that IS. And that is how suffering is created. Because in that moment I forget the Truth. I forget the Truth that my God Self is just jumping with joy with every bit of experience experienced by living beings. Another way to grok this… A few years ago I watched a 1998 movie called City of Angels with Nicholas Cage and Meg Ryan. Cage was an angel who fell in love with human Meg. And two things happened in the movie that stood out for me. One was a scene where the Angel (who had chosen to become human) was having a shower. He was just amazed at how incredible it felt to have warm water running over skin. Ooh yeah! Oh mi gosh…skin… warmth … water…more of that!! Fair enough – definitely one of the perks of being alive and human. But then another time, he forgot he couldn’t fly and fell out of the window and broke his leg. And as he lay there, he was equally ecstatic with the pain. “Ooh yeah, this is what pain and powerlessness feels like… how incredible… how exquisite!!” Basically – whatever he experienced, his spirit self was beside itself with joy and amazement that he was experiencing it. Spirit/God/Source can’t experience anything…it’s just potential. Experience and aliveness only comes with things that have some degree of physicality. And that includes rocks and soil and air, and insects and animals… and humans… and aliens. So to Source, that is an incredible gift. The greatest miracle of all. So, this Creation story above became the last important puzzle piece. Over the years, I had taught myself to feel Gratitude for what I had, but I had been missing out on feeling appreciation for what I didn’t have Because to Source, its ALL GOOD. So when we get born, Source jumps up and down with excitement. When we die as a small child – ditto. When we get healthy, get a job, win a prize, get married – Source be happy happy. When we lose the job and become homeless and lose our partner, and get cancer, Source is still happy happy. Because it’s all experience – which is all good – which is the whole purpose of creating separation from Source. Experiencing the ALL THAT IS. --------------------- So the Gratitude for ‘good’ stuff was just half the story. Our challenge is to Appreciate and be Grateful for EVERYTHING we experience – the ‘good’ AND the ‘bad’. All day long - Thank you, thank you, thank you! That bastard ignored me again – Thankyou! I don’t think I’m going to be able to pay that bill – Thankyou! The cop pulled me over for speeding - Thankyou! My girlfriend cheated on me – Thankyou! My Father just died – Thankyou! I’ve just been diagnosed with cancer – Thankyou! No-one will give me a job – Thankyou! Does this mean that you just thank everything and put up with ‘bad’ stuff happening to you? Nope. When I was writing this book, the very act of writing it started bringing up repressed memories of being raped when I was a younger woman. So I just stayed very present with the feelings and the hot tears and pain… and thanked and thanked it. And quickly the feeling dissipated. Now does this mean that being raped is ok, or no big deal. Does it mean you just let it happen… and that all rapists should be able to go their merry way wreaking havoc? No! But if you thank everything, you will just know what the next best step is for you. And somehow you will have more clarity and life-force to do it. You are remembering with every experience WHO YOU ARE. It just means that God/Source perceives that experience as yet another perfect way to experience being alive in this 3D OR 5D OR 10D existence. Thanking means you are not resisting, or storing that experience in your body and subconscious mind. Hence, rather than trapping the emotion in your body, the Appreciation gives it permission to process and release. Thus freeing you and lightening you to experience closer to your God Self You. Is it easy to do – NO But then suffering isn’t easy either. And of course, Source/God is fine either way – because it’s all divine experience. For those of you who rightly think that this could be impossible to put into practice. Years ago, when I was extremely depressed and suicidal (for years and years), I don’t think I would have had the capacity to be able to do this practice. I might have understood it on an intuitive level, but I wouldn’t have had the life-force energy to keep remembering to remember to thank all I was experiencing. To this day, I have no idea how I stayed alive, as I had no reason to. It just wasn’t my time to pop off. So please do not be hard on yourself, if this all seems a tad unrealistic and ridiculous. I get it. I really do. It’s just that for me, the is the ultimate win-win – the whole purpose of this book. This is where that gnarly old word, Faith comes in. Or another way to say it is, JUST DO IT. When something uncomfortable happens, say thankyou, thankyou to yourself. Even if you don’t mean it. Just do it, as if your life depends upon it. Because it does. Does this mean we just thank everything and skip over life’s vicissitudes and pretend everything is just tally-ho wonderful?? Does this mean you just laugh when your friend shares their woes with you? You can try that, but you might not have any friends. Only God Source up on a cloud can get away with that caper ;-) Although I have to say, that laughing with your sad friend can really lighten things up a bit as you both share the craziness of a world that seems to have gone insane. (All Good, remember) So yes, empathise, step in their shoes – experience it from their side of the world. Experience - Notice - Feel/Connect - Thank “Thank you so much for telling me that this is been happening for you.” The whole point is to feel and think and experience everything. To laugh and cry and scream and ponder. And connect with and appreciate all of it. So no, this is not about repressing what you feel. Instead you are including and transcending what you are feeling and experiencing. *(thanks Ken Wilbur.) Each experience (external) or emotion(internal) that you thank and appreciate, is a source of total JOY for your Spirit Self. For me, when I do that, I see in my mind’s eye, my little Elf Self on the surfboard of life, just whooping and hollering with exhilaration. Appreciation for Everything is the great Win-Win. …the Ultimate Unifying Factor of the Universe. Fractals of Source coming home. --------------------------------------- Many thanks to those who inspired me with this exploration: Dick Harbers David Hawkins Neale Donald Walsh Arnie Mindell John Demartini Robert Scheinfeld … and many more © 2024 Frances Amaroux  aApproximately 15 or 20 years ago, I had an amazing experience with fairies.
Up until then, I had absolutely no belief in them whatsoever, as I considered them to be the childish cute fabrications of creative minds. So, one day I was driving back from Byron Bay to Bellingen (Australia). I had been doing some very profound work with a ‘Shaman’ up in Queensland, as I had been extremely suicidally depressed for a number of years. But as I was driving down the East Coast, I was feeling fine… as in, neutral. And no, folks, I hadn’t been imbibing any extra curricular chemicals ;-) When, all of a sudden, my car started to fill with what looked like fairies. You know the ones with little dresses and wings? They were about 6 inches tall and were semi transparent, and I suspected that (if I was rude enough), I could put my hand right through them. And by that way - that’s not a thing - you just don’t dare to put your hand through them. Just saying. Anyhoo, for some weird reason, I asked the fairies if I was a fairy. And they all just pealed into laughter, and nodded their heads vigorously saying “Yes! Yes!” So I kept asking about other people I knew - and the fairies responded with a yes, or no, but with huge amounts of laughter. Basically, I/we laughed for about three hours. I'll never forget, stopping off on the old Pacific Highway, on the turn off to Mylestom. I got out of my car, and took a huge breath… trying to make sense of what I had just experienced. And I felt like I was completely off my face… and of course I was, with a plethora of endorphins! Well, there's no way I couldn't believe in fairies after that. Every now, and again I see them glimmering behind flowers and plants and trees. But that’s it. No more obvious visitations. I've had numbers of supernatural experiences prior to, and after that… But that was the most FUN. ;-) |
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